Today my boyfriend and I are celebrating our One-Year Anniversary. A year ago today we went on our first date…and as they say, the rest was history.
He and I are a dating site success story. We initially met on OKCupid several months before our first date when he messaged me, but things didn’t go anywhere between us. About a month or two later, he messaged me again because we both were looking at each other’s profile daily, and he figured it was worth another shot.
Obviously there was mutual interest in each other, and the first message between us wasn’t meant to go anywhere. It wasn’t our time yet. We both believe that things happen when they’re supposed to and not a moment sooner. So we feel that we clicked the second time around because we were meant to.
We became close very quickly, but he realized that he still wasn’t ready for a relationship, and I understood, even though it was hard for me because I really liked him. However, we kept talking and texting, leaning on each other when needed, and a month later we went on our first date.
From the moment I set eyes on him, I lost my heart. I gave him a hug as soon as I climbed out of my van and it felt right. From that first hug I felt safe and secure, something no one else has made me feel. And then I kissed him and it left us both with racing hearts. It wasn’t planned. I hadn’t thought about it. It just happened…and I’m glad it did. People can judge me for it all they want, but something compelled me to kiss him at that very moment, and I did. We still laugh about it because it was so shocking to both of us. And it showed on both of our faces that night.
The day was a raging success. It was so easy to be around each other. We talked..and laughed. We knew it was the beginning of something special.
To say the past year hasn’t been easy would be an understatement. We had to struggle with living so far apart. Also, it has been filled with drama from outside sources. We felt like certain forces wanted us to break up…but we didn’t. We kept holding on and believing in each other. We fought for us because we were far happier and more secure than we had ever been before. We both had FINALLY found the relationship we’d always wanted..one that built us up and didn’t tear us down.
I can honestly say that he brings out the best parts of me and mellows out the worst parts, like my moodiness. He can calm me down like no one else can. A simple hug from him can ease a panic attack. Sleeping beside him at night makes me feel safe. I don’t feel alone anymore, and I don’t mean in a physical sense. I feel like I found my other half, the yin to my yang.
Even though we celebrated our One Year Anniversary a month ago, on this exact date because that’s when he messaged me for the second time. And we became immensely important to each other, so we mark that as the beginning. But our One Year Anniversary of our first date is today, and that deserves to be recognized.
I’ve been searching for awhile for something special to give my boyfriend. I don’t have a lot of money, so I decided I wanted to make him something. But I didn’t know. I went on a Pinterest search, as I so often do, and came across this project below on the site Life Love Lauren, and I fell in love with it. (Thank you, Lauren, for sharing this idea with all of us. My boyfriend loved it.)
I did borrow some of Lauren’s ideas as far as card topics go and I tweaked some to fit my boyfriend and I’s relationship. Like her, I’m not going to share what was said on each card, but I will share with all of you what the outside of my envelopes say, so you can figure out what to put on yours. And if you do, please link back to me so I can read your posts. I’d love to see what you come up with. I think this is such a beautiful idea and a way to make our significant others feel good.
You want to know my dreams for our future
You need a reminder of what makes you a great dad
You need a reminder of why you love me
You need a reminder of why I love you
You need a huge and kiss from me
You’re feeling insecure
You need to talk to me
You’re missing me
Before you fall asleep at night
You need a smile
I’m sad and you don’t know what to do
You need a reminder of why we’re worth fighting for