With our impending nuptials only a few months away, we are currently in the hardcore wedding planning stage.
We’ve made a to-do list. Checked it twice.
And slowly we are crossing items off it as WE complete them. And yes, I stress WE!
I may receive some flack from some brides-to-be for what I’m about to say, but I don’t care.
Weddings are NOT only about what the brides wants. It’s NOT a day just for her.
A wedding is a union between TWO people that love each other…or at least should.
A wedding should NOT be about a bride pitching a fit to get what she wants, no matter the cost. Even if that means alienating people you care about…including the groom.
Seriously, ladies, get a damn grip and realize the world DOES NOT revolve around you. Your groom is important too, and you should really ask his opinion about things.
My husband-to-be and I are actively planning our wedding TOGETHER! Yes, he has EQUAL say in EVERY decision we make. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
If he has an idea, I want him to tell me about it. I want this wedding to be a reflection of BOTH of our wants and NOT just mine.
We both were married before to other people, and we don’t want to go through another divorce, so we want this wedding to be extra special. And by special we don’t mean super expensive. We are actually going to spend far less than most couples do. There will be no $20,000 bill for us. Not even close.
To some guys, it may seem like my fiancé isn’t being very manly since he’s helping with all of these details, but it doesn’t bother him. He told me that he is loving the fact that he is so involved, and that I want him to be a part of it. He loves that I respect his thoughts and opinions and encourage him to voice them. He actually said he’s having fun planning all the details…and I can tell he’s not lying. I love seeing how excited he is about everything. It makes me happy.
So for example, I asked my fiancé where he wanted to get married since neither of us wanted a church setting. He had that once and he wanted something different and that reflected more of his personality…and I’m not a church setting type of girl.
Lucky for us, our personalities and likes/wants are similar, so when he said he wanted an outdoors wedding, I was all for it. After looking around for awhile, we found the perfect location. We are getting married at a beautiful and quaint B&B that is across the road from a lake not too far from us. It offers everything we want: beautiful scenery and the perfect location for a wedding and photos.
Another thing that my fiancé had a huge part in was choosing a song for us to dance too, as well as the song I will walk to. We listened to a bunch but there were two that really spoke to him. (He actually sat down and listened to the lyrics very closely to make sure they spoke to him.) And I must say, the songs he picked could not be more perfect for us. (I actually get tears in my eyes when I listen to those songs because of how perfect they are.)
My fiancé also worked very closely with me to come up with a centerpiece idea for a table that we need for our ceremony. (More info about that idea to come in a future post. I will say he bought the centerpiece at a very unlikely place.)
And tomorrow we are going to look at flowers for my bouquet and for our table. AND we are going to look at dresses for our girls and our niece. I’m excited! (He is too.)
So there you have it ladies. It won’t kill you to let your future spouse have some say in the wedding. Let it be a special day for him too.
*Photo courtesy of phaewilk.